a perfect day to reflect on the need for honor in marriage.
“Submit to one another out of reverence to Christ.” Ephesians 5:21 NIV
For many people the word ‘submit’ carries with it negative connotations that convey images of one person being a doormat for another person. This simply does not have to be the case. To “submit” merely means to “yield” and yielding to another is not a sign of weakness, inferiority, or any other negative adjective one could come up with.
As Christians, we all know we should follow the examples of Christ. We all are aware that Christ submitted to the will of God. That fact in and of itself should remove some of the stigma that we may attach to the word. Submitting to God is something most of us have no problem with (at least, we should have no problem with submitting to God.) Doing so, and knowing why we are doing it should help us understand that yielding – or subordinating our rights – to others is in keeping with God’s wishes, and nowhere is it more important than in a marriage.
Again, it is important to understand that this does not mean we give the other person carte blanche to walk all over us. Notice that Paul’s words are “submit to one another.” This means that two people joined in marriage should endeavor, on a daily basis, to honor God by always placing the other person before themselves.
Consider for a moment, the concept of a man or a woman placing their spouse on a pedestal, so to speak. This phrase refers to placing this person in a position of honor, respect and love and indicates a willingness to do all that is within their power to ensure that person’s happiness.
Of course, if the person on the pedestal doesn’t place their spouse on one as well, then he or she is always in a position of looking down on the other and this is not honoring God or the spouse and is not how God intends marriage to be. Both must place the other on a pedestal and do the things mentioned above, but do them so that they are then looking across at each other, eliminating the one-sidedness of one looking down on the other.
When two people have a strong relationship with Christ, and genuine love and concern for each other, bringing honor to the marriage should never present a problem. Submitting to each other demonstrates this love and concern and honors God. And when our marriage honors God, it stands to reason it is because we honor our marriage.
Taken from “TODAY IS….A Gift From God”, (C) 2013 Tony Casson
Author’s note: Before anyone else points this out, I will.
I have been divorced twice and have other failed relationships as well, so what makes me an ‘expert’ on marriage?
Well, the truth is, I am not.
I am the last person to give advice on marriage and relationships. However, I am also a person who has discovered the beauty, wisdom, and guidance available when we take the time to read first something that will help make a marriage last – the Bible.
With God’s guidance, our flawed humanity can survive the trials and tribulations of life on this earth, and that guidance can also hold out hope, even to those like myself who have a history of getting it all wrong.
“TODAY Is….A Gift From God” was not written to show how I have lived my life in the past. It was written to demonstrate how I could have lived my life had I submitted to our great God decades ago. But it also helps me to see that there is hope even for those of us who once thought life was hopeless, and it helps to assure me that, should the opportunity present itself again, I might actually get it right.