November 9


a wonderful day to prioritize relationships.

“The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”  John 4:18 NIV

For those of us who are parents, one of our greatest responsibilities to our children should be centered on relationships. We should teach them the value of relationships with friends, family, co-workers, strangers, members of our church and – of paramount importance – we should be teaching them about relationships between spouses.

How does someone who has been married 3, 4, or 5 times and has had numerous relationships outside of marriage teach a child about the value of the relationship between a man and a woman in marriage?

Certainly there will be those who are reading this who will begin to bristle defensively. Excuses, or reasons, will be offered: “She was unfaithful.” “He was abusive.” “She was a drunk.” “He spent all his time looking at pornography.”

And on, and on.

Instead of teaching our children the importance of our relationships with each other, we inadvertently teach them that a relationship with God is not important.

For those who would disagree, consider this: If we are secure in our relationship with God, none of the above “reasons” will be a factor in our lives. When the most important relationship in our life is recognized as the relationship we have with God, then – and only then – are we prepared to engage in a relationship with another person.

Who would argue that the predominate reasons given for divorce are the result of sin?

Paul had the answer for that: “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.” (Galatians 5:16 NLT).

A strong, loving relationship with God brings us everything that is required to enable us to engage in strong, loving relationships and marriages.

“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23 NLT).

Read that over and over. Who can argue with the fact that those things are the basis for a strong, loving, healthy relationship?

No one, of course.

To obtain these things without God’s help is impossible. There are simply too many obstacles in the way. These obstacles are called “sin” and the temptation that leads to it. A strong, active, loving relationship with God gives us the ability to overcome any obstacle.

If our relationship with God comes first, our marriage will last. And what a lesson that is for all of us.

Especially for our children.


Taken from “TODAY IS….A Gift From God”, (C) 2013 Tony Casson

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" For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." (Jeremiah 29:11 NLT)
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2 Responses to November 9

  1. jackie1227 says:

    This is so true. It was really hard to even try to teach my son about relationships when I didn’t know God and never got married. I know nothing of a loving fruitful relationship…every relationship of every person I know is jacked up one way or another. I used to pray for a husband…now I pray to be closer to Jesus. I pray that if a husband would improve my relationship with Christ, great…but I want nothing to come between me and Jesus. I am just starting to know what it’s like to have a relationship with Him. Knowing He is with me, He hears me, He is faithful…just knowing Him like that is better than any pseudo-relationship I’ve ever had with a man.

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  2. Tony Casson says:

    Praying for a closer relationship with the Lord is great, but it is OK to pray for a relationship with a man that is Christ-centered. Many of us who have been saved later in life can claim the same difficulty, or inability, to teach our children about relationships. Just look at the divorce rate in this country and the numbers of people who don’t even bother with marriage at all. Once, saved, however, we are in a great position to teach because we have the best guidance for relationships and marriage we could ask for – the Bible.

    May God lead us all in the direction He wants us to go, may He make the path clear, and may He quiet our hearts and minds so we may discern His will.

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